I don’t know about you guys but Covid definitely put a pause on my dating life. 2020 hit different from a breakup to putting myself back on the market. It’s now 2021 and I refuse to accept that I’ll have the same dating results. This year I’m really taking matters into my own hands by being very intentional with my dating life and setting dating goals for all of 2021. All my single ladies are welcome to join me on my journey, here are 3 dating goals to kick-off 2021.
Back in March 2020, we all had to shelter in place due to COVID. I can only imagine how this clashed with so many relationships and those who are single & dating. Although, with online dating sites whether for gamers or muslim marriage or even just the usual sites, it is still possible to find people. And with everyone stuck at home and with time on their hands, it will be easier to get to know each other. Even if it is just over text. However, this pandemic fatigue is real and so many of us singles have been stuck at home for so long, I truly believe some of us lost hope in the dating world. But time to ourselves isn’t a bad thing, during this pandemic a lot of us singles were able to really dive deep, heal and create a new outlook on our dating life. When it comes to love I consider myself a hopeless romantic and I’ll always love – love but I realized that it is time to be more intentional with my dating and it is a must that I date with a purpose (also note: that everyone deserves to have fun here and there). For the first time in my life, I’m setting dating goals and I’m pretty excited about the goals that I set.
Why Set Dating Goals?
I now believe that you should treat your dating life just like you would any other goal. This will help keep you on track and stay motivated to keep yourself active when it comes to dating. It’s easy to attract people, you have make-up and sexy clothes for that! Perhaps even a couple of squirts of some naughty pheromones perfume to spice it up. However, it’s time we also started to attract something that is good for you. We all want a bit of lust, but what about love too? Someone who will bring out the best in us and make us feel good and happy about ourselves. Someone who has the same goals. Well let me tell you now, if you don’t love yourself, how on earth are you going to love anyone else, or of course, them love you?
1. Date Myself: Focus on a relationship with myself.
This is something that I’ve always thought I did well (date myself). But dating yourself goes beyond taking yourself on an actual date (guilty). Dating yourself gives you a chance to get to know all of you, your chance to dive deep and start healing. You’re making a commitment to put yourself first for the long run.
2. Listen More
In most conversations, the person who speaks least benefits most vs. the person who speaks most benefits least. When dating listening allows you to not only learn about who they truly are but also what they have to offer You get to see if their values aline with yours. This helps you determine what you do and don’t want. In order to get to know a person and vet them as a potential significant other, you have to listen to them.
3. Trust My Intuition & Stop At Red Flags
Remember intuition is real and it’s not to be questioned. When you see the red flags it’s always best to turn around. This is why listening is very important. Remember what you accept now you’ll settle for later. When you settle you go against your values/beliefs and this lets the person think they can bypass your boundaries. It’s time to Look beyond potential and stick to our own values/beliefs.
I truly enjoy dating but I’m also aware that I’m doing myself a disservice is if I don’t set boundaries within my dating life. This is why my dating goals are important to me. Did you guys set any dating goals for 2021?